Okay, so something strange is a-brewin.
A close friend of my husband's has been flirting with me. He is also our son's godfather.
Backstory: met him thru my hubby when we started dating years ago, over time he became just as close to me as he was to my husband. ate dinner at my house, been over for family holidays, even christened my son. dude struggles with depression & he drinks heavily, REALLY heavily. over the years he's always said shit like "man i'm jealous of what yall have" or "yall have a beautiful relationship, i wish i had something like that." he's single, no kids, never been married, good job, 29 yrs old. i took it as a grain of salt or whatever.
so ffwd to the beginning of this year, i stopped working in Feb for maternity leave. my husband works all day & didn't want me moving around too much but i had doc's appointments and different errands. at one point i got so big i couldn't sit behind a steering wheel so if i needed to go somewhere or do something, dude would drive me around if i couldn't get anyone else to bring me. i got to know him more during this time and i don't know if i sent some signals that implied that i wanted to get with him, but i swear i didn't mean to. he was in a relationship with a chick that was using him and i was kinda counseling him on how to dump the bitch and move on, you know giving a woman's perspective. they eventually broke up. i'm thinking he took my compassion for attraction
ffwd a couple months forward, i have my son, he breaks up with ol girl. so last night we invite him and a few friends over for dinner and spades and when i'm cleaning the kitchen, he comes in and is posted in the corner staring at me. so i ask him if he has a problem, and he says "yeah." so i ask him what's up and he's like "i feel something for you." i crack a joke and say "and i feel like you need to get out of my kitchen unless you plan on helping me clean up." he says "nah fareal, I got feelings for you. all them times i said i was jealous of yall relationship i was actually jealous of that nigga." *points at my husband*
i turn around like "fareal?" he was like "yeah." so i tell him its best he leaves and walk him to the door.
didn't tell my husband yet, i really don't know what to say or how to say it.
now my question for you IC men is...why the FUCK do men do shit like this?
A close friend of my husband's has been flirting with me. He is also our son's godfather.
Backstory: met him thru my hubby when we started dating years ago, over time he became just as close to me as he was to my husband. ate dinner at my house, been over for family holidays, even christened my son. dude struggles with depression & he drinks heavily, REALLY heavily. over the years he's always said shit like "man i'm jealous of what yall have" or "yall have a beautiful relationship, i wish i had something like that." he's single, no kids, never been married, good job, 29 yrs old. i took it as a grain of salt or whatever.
so ffwd to the beginning of this year, i stopped working in Feb for maternity leave. my husband works all day & didn't want me moving around too much but i had doc's appointments and different errands. at one point i got so big i couldn't sit behind a steering wheel so if i needed to go somewhere or do something, dude would drive me around if i couldn't get anyone else to bring me. i got to know him more during this time and i don't know if i sent some signals that implied that i wanted to get with him, but i swear i didn't mean to. he was in a relationship with a chick that was using him and i was kinda counseling him on how to dump the bitch and move on, you know giving a woman's perspective. they eventually broke up. i'm thinking he took my compassion for attraction
ffwd a couple months forward, i have my son, he breaks up with ol girl. so last night we invite him and a few friends over for dinner and spades and when i'm cleaning the kitchen, he comes in and is posted in the corner staring at me. so i ask him if he has a problem, and he says "yeah." so i ask him what's up and he's like "i feel something for you." i crack a joke and say "and i feel like you need to get out of my kitchen unless you plan on helping me clean up." he says "nah fareal, I got feelings for you. all them times i said i was jealous of yall relationship i was actually jealous of that nigga." *points at my husband*
i turn around like "fareal?" he was like "yeah." so i tell him its best he leaves and walk him to the door.
didn't tell my husband yet, i really don't know what to say or how to say it.
now my question for you IC men is...why the FUCK do men do shit like this?
