Dear BMS…I am a 47-year-old male (NOT seen below), married for 26 years. I am hopelessly in love with my wife and still see her as the most beautiful woman in the world.
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I have always been self-employed and have sometimes been at the extremes of feast or famine. During the bad times, I often worked 110-plus-hour weeks to save the ship.
Each time things have gotten really bad, my wife has had an affair to make up for the time, money and attention I can’t provide her. I found out about her latest affair (her third) when I found a secret cellphone in her purse. For the last eight months, when she visited our daughter at college, she would check into a hotel with her lover.
I feel responsible for failing to meet her needs. She doesn’t want a divorce, but admits she doubts she will ever fully stop dating, and says the effort she puts into deceiving me is proof she loves me and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. I am amazed at the number of men willing to have sex with a married woman.
My heart is broken, and I feel like a failure. Am I a fool to keep fighting for her? — HOPELESSLY IN LOVE
DEAR HOPELESSLY IN LOVE: First of all…HELL NAH! I don’t care how beautiful your wife is…if she loves you, she wouldn’t cheat. If she loves you, she would support you in your quest for a better life, her azz would get a damn job and do what’s needed to uplift your family, not bring it down.
Be thankful that she’s told you point blank, she plans to continue cheating and she has NO remorse. Do you think you deserve this?
Unfortunately she isn’t invested in you or your marriage…you should keep it moving and find someone who appreciates you.
We wish you the best.
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